Space.Personal Space. Needed, not wanted.

Hey folks! Relationships. Everybody has them with family, friends, some may even have them with the opposite sex (or same sex different strokes, for different folks ;oD) but one thing that I find to be a problem whether people realize it or not is the lack of personal space put between them and people they are with. I mean with parents, as soon as we are old enough to know that we don't want to tell them everything and don't want them to know about the porno stash you have collected, or anything you consider private rummaged through, you start to set up boundaries. Well, whether they respect them or not is another topic of conversation, but the main idea never changes, you need a certain amount of personal space to feel comfortable with yourself, with them, and with others. So why is it that when we persue intimate relationships we tend to forget about this and throw caution to the wind. Now before I deal with the sh!tstorm this kind of topic enevitably brings up, lemme get out my umbrella and galoshes and talk to you! I have experienced this distinct lack of personal space in relationships I have been in and I have to tell you it is of the utmost importance that you both understand how important it is to have enough space as a person to be yourself without being crowded. Most people don't take into account that this important aspect of adolesense is what made them who they are or even that the lack of personal space could do the same, but I bet the latter is alot less fun. Don't ever forget that people are not property and that everyone should understand boundaries. If I don't make the space, then by all means make it for me, I will thank you later after realizing how well that that works for me and you. Whenever you think about doing that just remember what happened when your parents tried to encroach and suffocate you with their lack of respect for your personal space and you will know what to do. Till next time: Emotions. CYA!

Oreo or Cultured?

Hey folks let's jump right into it. The other day I was having a conversation with some friends and the topic of "Oreo" came up. For those not in the know, a black person is referred to as such when they either "dress white","talk white",or "act white", whatever that means. Now this has not only happened to my friend but me numerous times. The interesting thing about it is: I am only referred to as such by fellow blacks when I say something intelligent. This begs to question, Is intelligence in black people only considered a "White Thing"? I am constantly annoyed by this terminology and hate that black people have been conditioned to think that anything remotely doing with intelligence or something outside of Hiphop and R&B culture qualifies me as an Oreo. What happened to being praised for being articulate? Why not encourage some elaboration instead of chastising somebody for using terms other than "Nah Mean", "You know what I'm Sayin'?", Because sometimes I don't know what you are saying. The ultimate irony? I am into Hiphop and R&B and probably know about it than the average listener. This all ropes back around to my original statement, "Do not judge a book by it's cover, you never know what content is inside."
Take Care folks next I get into relationship stuff should be interesting. Cya!

"Not a thug not a geek, trying to groove just a little"

As the title implies, I find myself somewhere in between persona. I am into certain things like comics,video games, Hip Hop , Science, Pop Culture and it seems that all of these things are considered in contrast to each other. Sure, I could talk to you about my strategies in games like UT3, COD4, Disgaea, KOTOR, or ramble on about why Half Life is my favorite video game series of all time.I could talk to you about The Strange Fruit Project, Little Brother, Talib Kweli, or Queen, Prince, and Michael Jackson. We could talk about Quantum Physics, Chaos Theory, and Philosophy, but we can also talk about fashion trends. I think I am a really well rounded individual. Herein lies the problem. This society has a way of pigeon holeing people and typecasting them into certain roles and I have been a victim of this trend as well as many others. Not only does this reinforce negative attitudes, it perpetuates segregation and stereotypes and hinders us from having a conversation and making a genuine connection. I mean, just think you could look at a person and say oh, he is reading xmen how could I ever relate to him but little do you know, you probably have more in common than you think. I am gonna keep this 1st post short, but the moral of this story is to please, take a moment and not judge a book by it's cover you may be surprised by the content waiting inside. With that said I hope you will enjoy the content I will be putting here regularly because I intend to provoke thought and critical thinking within yourself and amongst peers. Take Care!